After a new baby arrives, give each older child some private time with you every day, away from the others. Use this time to focus on each one's strengths and accomplishments.
Never compare one child with another and don't have favourites.
Be fair. Make them take turns over who decides which programme to watch, or who sits beside the windows of the car.
To encourage affection between siblings, arrange for them to enjoy things in common, such as building a make-believe house in the garden. Shared experiences help build a friendship that can withstand occasional angry flare-ups.
Encourage older children to use their experience to help younger ones. Commend their cooperation.
